Writing wedding thank you notes is often considered one of the most grueling tasks to tackle after the big day and in some cases, even before the wedding. However, your guests took the time and money to purchase gifts for you and your new spouse, so proper etiquette dictates you send out thank you notes in return. It is important to let anyone who sent a wedding gift know that you appreciate their thoughtfulness and warm wishes.
Time Frame for Sending
If you're going on a honeymoon, you obviously can't send your wedding thank you notes until after you return, but do try not to wait much longer than that. While it's acceptable to send it up to three months after the big day, it's best to do it within two weeks of returning from your honeymoon. After that, people may start wondering if you didn't like their gifts or didn't receive them.
Wedding thank you cards and their envelopes should be written by hand on blank cards. The front of the cards should feature couple's married name or monogram or the phrase "thank you" in an elegant font. Sending a form letter or typed envelope doesn't show the recipient you care enough to jot down a few lines. A thank you note is supposed to be a personal correspondence between two parties. Treating is as a mass mailing is insulting.
Familiarize yourself with these wedding gift scenarios, then write your personalized notes with assurance. Wedding gift etiquette is important, so word your note carefully.
Thank you for the linen tablecloth. We are honored to continue the traditions associated with this family treasure. Robert and I look forward to seeing you again at the family reunion. Thank you again for your honored gift.
Love, Michelle and Robert
Dear Aunt Linda and Uncle Norman,
Thank you for your generous wedding gift. Mary and I are saving for our first car and your gift encouraged us to begin looking. Thank you again for being a part of our special day.
Love, Greg and Mary
Thank you for the silver flatware. Dan and I will use them at every special occasion. You will see them again at our Christmas dinner! Thank you for your kindness.
Love, Kim and Lee
Gifts You Don't Like
Dear Cathy and Bill,
Thank you for the set of porcelain frogs. Roger and I will think of you, and our wedding day, every time we look at them. Thank you for joining us in our celebration.
Love, Margaret and Mike
Show You Care
Take an hour or two one evening or weekend afternoon to complete this task as a couple. You'll be happy you did. Reread your notes before popping them in the mail. Verify that your note sends the right tone and message, and that you spell everyone's name correctly. Verify that you are sending the right gift thank you to the right person. Write from the heart. Express how you feel with brevity and specificity.