How to Address Save the Date Postcards and Envelopes

Kate Miller-Wilson
Save the date invitation

Like everything involved in weddings, there are rules for how to address save-the-date postcards and envelopes. Properly addressing these notes, which you'll send about nine months before your big day, will help guests see the tone you plan to set for your wedding. This is the first glimpse most people will get of your wedding stationary, so make sure it looks gorgeous.

How to Address Save-the-Dates for Different Situations

How you address your save-the-date envelopes will depend on the recipient. However, no matter who will receive the save-the-date, keep these guidelines in mind as you write the addresses:

  • Guidelines are the same for postcards and cards with envelopes.
  • Avoid nicknames, even when you know someone well.
  • Write out the person's full name, avoiding initials.
  • Spell out streets, state names, and words like "post office box."
  • Spell out numbers.
  • Don't use symbols when you can spell it out, such as "&" for "and."

Single Men and Women

If you're sending a save-the-date to a single male or female friend or family member, you can simply address it as you would any casual written correspondence. For guests over the age of 18, you can make it more formal by adding "Ms." or "Mr." before the guest's name.

Jennifer Smith
5545 Roselawn Avenue
Tupelo, Mississippi 38802

Single Men and Women and Guest

If you would like to add a "plus one" for your single guests, you should let guests know with the save-the-date. If you know the name of the person your friend will be bringing, include that name on the save-the-date. However, it's common not to know who will accompany your single friend. In that case, you can address the save-the-date to your friend "and guest."

Jennifer Smith and Guest
5545 Roselawn Avenue
Tupelo, Mississippi 38802

Married Couples With the Same Last Name

Include the names of both people. If you want to set a formal tone, you can include titles; however, it's perfectly acceptable to leave off the titles on a save-the-date. According to tradition, the man's name is listed first on the address, but for same-sex couples, use alphabetical order.

Simon and Samantha Brown
1255 Fifty-Second Avenue South
Ann Arbor, Michigan 48103

Married Couples With Two Last Names

If the married couple does not share the same last name, you should address the save-the-date postcard or envelope by spelling out both full names. You can add titles if you wish, especially if you would like the tone to be more formal. Traditionally, the man will be listed first. In the case of same-sex couples, you can use alphabetical order.

Mr. Simon Brown and Ms. Samantha Williams-Brown
1255 Fifty-Second Avenue South
Ann Arbor, Michigan 48103

Two Unmarried People at the Same Address

Sometimes, you need to invite two people living at the same address. If they are simply roommates and will be bringing separate dates, send them each their own invitation. If they will be coming together and won't be bringing separate guests, such as a couple living together before marriage, you can send them an invitation to share. You'll need to address it using both full names, but give each name its own line. List the person you know best first.

Jessica Atkins and
Jennifer Smith
5545 Roselawn Avenue
Tupelo, Mississippi 38802

Families With Children

How you address a save-the-date postcard or envelope for a family will depend on whether you are inviting children to your wedding. If you are not inviting children, simply address the save-the-date to the parents only. If you are planning to invite kids, you should name them in the address, listing them on the line after their parents. For a more informal touch, you can also address the save-the-date to the whole family.

Simon and Samantha Brown
Oscar, Rose, and Penelope Brown
1255 Fifty-Second Avenue South
Ann Arbor, Michigan 48103

or

The Brown Family
1255 Fifty-Second Avenue South
Ann Arbor, Michigan 48103

Return Address for Save-the-Date Postcards and Envelopes

Whether you send a postcard to save the date or include your card in an envelope, you should always include the return address. This lets the recipient know who is sending the card, and it helps you find out if the post office was unable to deliver the card.

Invitation Card on Rustic Wood

Placement of the Return Address

If you are addressing a save-the-date envelope, you should place the return address in the upper left corner, according to the US Postal Service. However, while it isn't technically correct according to the USPS, you can also put your return address on the back flap. For postcards, place your return address on the left side of the back of the card.

Hand-Written, Stamped, or Labeled

You don't have to hand-write the return address on your save-the-date cards. If you prefer, you can use a custom address stamp or pre-printed labels to save time. Because save-the-dates are less formal, anything you choose is acceptable.

First Names or Full Names

Because save-the-date cards are informal, you can use only your first names on the return address. Alternatively, if you want to set a more formal tone, you can use your full names. If you want to be very formal, send the save-the-date from the address of the people hosting the wedding, often the parents of the bride.

Jill and Tom
444 River Drive
Portland, Oregon 97035

or

Jill Parker and Tom Owens
444 River Drive
Portland, Oregon 97035

Save-the-Dates Are Great Practice

Ultimately, addressing your save-the-date postcards or envelopes is a practice run for addressing your wedding invitations. You'll find out if you have any addresses wrong, work on the proper etiquette for invitations, and announce your wedding to your guests.

How to Address Save the Date Postcards and Envelopes