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Sue - You can easily word a reception invitation as "to celebrate the (insert original wedding date) marriage of" to indicate that the couple is already married but that the reception is being held later. That is perfectly acceptable and certainly understandable given their situation.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

Lori - The wording is properly phrased to include both you and your husband as well as your ex-husband, but not the girlfriend unless she is really close to your daughter and your daughter agrees that she should be included in the invitations. You can alter the "divorced" wording above to include your remarriage.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

Melissa - You can play on the humor in your situaton by using words such as "finally" and "long overdue." If you'd like a more elegant phrasing, use words such as "at long last" and "love of a lifetime for a lifetime." Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

My daugther and her husband are in the military, and due to cir...stances were married by a Justice of the peace in Feb. to be able to transfer to the same location. They had planned to be married this fall. We were planning on a wedding and reception then, and would still like to have a ceremony and reception for them at a later date. I am wondering how the invitation should be worded, since they are already married. Thank you for the help.

-- Contributed by: sue

My first husband and I are divorced, I am remarried. My husband and I and my ex are hosting the wedding of our daughter. How should the wedding invitaions be worded. My ex-husband is not remarried, but has a girlfriend and she wants to be included even though she is not paying for anything and not married to my ex.Please help!!!

-- Contributed by: Lori

We were first engaged nearly 30 years ago, and now we are finally going to get married. I am a now a widow, and my he is divorced. My mother is deceased, and both of his parents are deceased. We are hosting the event ourselves in a church. We would like a clever way to word the invitations that includes our nearly 30-year history/absence from each other. Please advise. Thanks, M

-- Contributed by: Melissa

Hi Lisa, Check above under the heading "If the Bride and Groom Will be Hosting" or view these articles for more examples: Wedding Invitation Verse, Wedding Invitation Kit, Free Wedding Invitation, Creative Wording for Wedding Invitations.

-- Contributed by: Amy Finley

Me and my Fiance are getting married on 3/07/09 but we are hosting it ourself i would like to know how to word my invitations. if you could please email some examples i would like that. thank you lisa nad jc

-- Contributed by: lisa

My fiance and I are marrying on 08-08-08 in a very small ceremony at the courthouse prior to his deployment. We plan to hold a wedding ceremony and reception on our one year anniversary in 2009. How would we word our invitation?

-- Contributed by: Erin

Hi Kylee, That's a great question. Invitation Consultants has some sample wording for invitations announcing a private ceremony has taken place and guests are invited to the reception. For more ideas and examples, see these articles: Post Wedding Reception Wording, Creative Wording for Wedding Invitations, and Free Wedding Invitation. Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Amy Finley

How would you word an announcement of a destination wedding were only immediate family are attending? We are have an party/ open house when we get back and want our extended family to be notified of the weding and invite them to a celebration Any suggestions?

-- Contributed by: Kylee Collins

My fiancee and I do not want any gifts and are subsequently not registered. I indicated this by stating on my invition that: "Your presence is the only gift desired."

-- Contributed by: Julie

Hi, what wording could be used if the bride and groom have been married before and want to use their childrens names in the invitation to make them feel like a huge part of the ceremony? Thanks

-- Contributed by: Pam

Raffaella - So many names can be tricky. One option is to leave specific names off the invitation entirely if you'd like a more casual wording, and just say "the parents of" or you can work in the names like this: "Mr. and Mrs. X and Mr. Y invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Z, to A, son of Mr. and Mrs. B." That can get lengthy for an invitation, but guests who understand your family dynamics will understand. Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

Helen - There is no appropriate way to word an invitation for any gifts, but especially not for monetary gifts. While many stores offer "registry cards" to be enclosed in invitations, this is still considered rude. When guests ask about a registry or gifts, however, you can express a preference for monetary gifts by a discreet explanation, such as saying that you have most of the basic necessities but that you're hoping to save up for something (splurging on the honeymoon, a mortgage, etc.). Otherwise there is no way to appropriately mention gifts -- doing so may seem like the wedding has an admission fee, and that is not a polite way to include guests in the event.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

My parents are divoced and my mom has been remarried since I was 6 (so my step-dad can't be left out of the invitiation) and my fiance's parents are married. How can I word thinngs with 5 names???

-- Contributed by: Raffaella Murano

How do you word invitation when you want monetary gifts only?

-- Contributed by: Helen

Elaine - If you want to mention all the parents on the invitation, you can use phrasing like "Mrs. Mom's Name and Mr. Dad's Name invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Your Name, to Groom's Name, the son of Mr. and Mrs. In-Law's Name." The "Mr. and Mrs." phrase generally indicates marriage, while separating their names shows a divorce. If your mother and father still have the same name, you may want to just use "the parents of..." since, married or not, they are still your parents.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

I need to know the proper etiquette for my invitations. My parents are divorced however, my fiance's are still married.

-- Contributed by: Elaine Ramirez

Lisa - If white-out isn't too noticeable, that would be the best option; crossing it out with a black pen would simply look too messy. If white-out won't work (say, if the programs aren't on white paper), then you can put a small note in each one saying you regret the error and that the person's name is properly spelled "this way", though such added bits of paper can easily become litter. Your best course of action, if it can't be corrected with white-out, may be to tell the person (if you act like you didn't realize it, that's disrespectful to them, as if they're not important enough for their name to be spelled correctly -- how would you feel if your name were spelled incorrectly on the invitations?) and ask their opinion. They may be used to it if their name is frequently misspelled, and they may be gracious and tell you not to worry about it.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

I need to know the proper etiquette on correcting wedding programs (typo). It's too late to re-do the program and reprint the text. Do I white-out the error, cross it out with a black pen or just leave it... (the error is a extra letter on someone's last name and its written 3 times in the program incorrectly.) Also, if it looks too sloppy to correct with white-out...Do I tell the person who's last name is spelled incorrectly before the wedding rehearsal or just act like I didn't realize the typo occurred...I need help!!!!

-- Contributed by: Lisa

Laurel - Today, more and more couples are contributing substantially to their own wedding costs, but it is still considered traditional for the bride's parents to be named as the primary hosts. You can word the invitation without that, however, by adopting a more contemporary phrasing such as "You are invited to share in the wedding of BRIDE, daughter of PARENTS, to GROOM, son of PARENTS" or some variation like that. All the important parties are then mentioned, but there is no clear delineation of how the finances have broken down.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

When the bride's parents are contributing to the cost of the wedding, but the bride and groom are also paying a substantial portion of hte wedding costs (about half), what is the appropriate way to word the invitation?

-- Contributed by: Laurel

Kelly - You have the right idea about the names so all the guests realize who the reception is for, and to let them know you were recently married the invitation can use phrases such as "celebrate the recent marriage of" instead of the word wedding. To let them know it's a come and go affair, you can call it an open house reception -- guests will be more familiar with that term. Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

My fiance and I are getting married in a very small ceremony that includes family and a few friends.

Then my in laws want to host a come and go reception with appetizers for us a couple of weeks after we get married.

I am having trouble wording the invitation to let people know that we have already gotten married.

I have been married once before. I feel it would be a good idea to put his first and last name and then my first and last name as it is now (before we get married) so they know who the reception is for.

Can you give me some pointers on how to word this invitation for a come and go reception? Thank you

-- Contributed by: Kelly

Bonnie - In your special case, I think it would be perfectly acceptable to include a card or note with our invitations indicating that you can't be taking gifts like that with you. While this isn't customary, your guests will appreciate the notice, and many of them may then choose to give money instead (but you're right, it isn't polite to ask for that). Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

Hello

I am re-marrying, and then relocating to the United Kingdom.

Since I can't take aplliances and other gifts with me, is there any polite way of mentioning this on the invitation. While money would be of great help in the move, I believe it's impolite to suggest it. Any ideas?

-- Contributed by: Bonnie

Betty - The invitation could be worded like: "Mr. X and Mrs. Y invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Betty, to xxxx" - their last names wouldn't match, but presumably your guests will know why. If your stepfather is also helping pay for the event, you can say: "Mr. X and Mr. and Mrs. Y ivite you..." to include his contributions if desired.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

I DONT KNOW HOW TO WORD OUT INVITIONS MY PARENTS (BRIDE ) ARE PAYING BUT THEY ARE DIVORCED AND MY MOTHER HAS RE MARRIED AND MY DAD HAS NOT....HELP9

-- Contributed by: BETTY

Ashley - Unfortunately, there is no way to word an invitation to include gifts of any sort without sounding rude. The invitation should not have any mention of gifts at all, otherwise it seems as though that is an admission fee to the wedding. As for how you can spread the word that you'd appreciate money more than material gifts, be sure your immediate family members and your bridal party members are aware of it so they can let anyone who asks know, and if you are asked about gifts you can say something like "We really don't need much, we're just trying to save up for some new furniture - ours really needs replacing!" That way, you're not mentioning "Give us money" but you're still letting your preferences be known. Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

I am trying to figure out how to word... no gifts please, just money. :) We are working on buying a house and have already lived together for 3 years and already have everthing we need. We would like to buy new furniture for our new home and would just like money to go towards that. Do you know any clever ideas to ask for just money without sounding rude? Thanks!

-- Contributed by: ashley

Gina - You can word the invitation with phrases like "Mr. and Mrs. X invite you to celebrate the recent wedding of their daughter, Gina X, to Richard Z at a reception on Date." Of course, the exact wording will vary based on who is hosting, but the invitation should make it clear that you were recently married. I'd avoid putting the wedding date or location in because it could be confusing as to whether that's the wedding or reception. You do need to let guests know they will not be at the wedding ceremony itself, so the expectations for the event are clear. Using that phrasing (including the "reception" bit) will help clarify that. Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

How do I word an invitation if we are having a destination but will be having the reception at home two weeks later, do I include that all on the invite?

-- Contributed by: Gina

Jennifer -- It really depends on the formality of the wedding. You could just say "The parents of The Bride and The Groom invite you to share their... etc." That would eliminate the most wordiness, though it is a more casual wording. Otherwise, you'd say something like "Mr. Robert Doe and Mrs. Jane May, with Mr. and Mrs. Groom, invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Sally Doe and Joe Groom..."

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

How do I word an invitation where both sets of parents are helping to pay but one set is divorced (not remarried) and the other are still married? I don't want it to sound too wordy

-- Contributed by: Jennifer

Jane -- Using many of the same phrases if fine for a reception after the couple has already married. For example: "Please join us to celebrate the marriage of..." or "They tied the knot, now it's time to celebrate!" are good options depending on the formality of the reception.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

What is the proper wording for a reception invitation for a couple who have already married.

-- Contributed by: Jane

A quick note: Oahu is an island, not a city or a town. Therefore, youre destination wedding invitation should read "on Oahu," not "in Oahu." If you were talking about a city instead of an island, it should read "in Honolulu."

I grew up on Oahu, by the way. :)

-- Contributed by: Erin
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