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Dave - Typically, the bride and groom do give something extra special to their honor attendants, over and above what they'd give to the other bridesmaids and groomsmen. Of course, it depends on the budget and just how much help the best man and maid of honor are in getting ready for the wedding and handling the details of the day. To keep from having any hard feelings among the other attendants, these extra little tokens may be given in private with a sincere thanks. That said, giving something extra is not necessary - it's just if the bride and groom want to do so.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

is the bride and groom supposed to give a little extra to the best man and the matron of honor for participation in the wedding?

-- Contributed by: help???

Anonymous - It sounds as if there are some communication issues between the couple and the groom's parents. While, admittedly, most people go for the more formal wedding and more casual rehearsal, it doesn't have to be that way - the rehearsal dinner can be a formal event while the wedding itself is more laid back. Still, if this is causing considerable frustration, then it would be best for the groom's parents and the couple to sit down and work out any issues together before the planning gets too deep to change. The groom will need to take the lead on most of this, standing up to his mother and letting her know that she's raised a responsible, happy son and she has nothing to be embarrassed about, regardless of how they celebrate the marriage.

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

here's a question i can't seem to find answered - what if the MOG is deliberately trying to upstage the actual wedding event with a formal rehearsal? the wedding is a casual laid back summer afternoon thing and she's ticked about it (it'll "embarrass" her in front of her friends) so is insisting on an uber fancy rehearsal so her name isn't attached to our "white trash" wedding.

-- Contributed by: anonymous

Sandy - The rehearsal dinner invitation can be worded more casually to indicate the type of affair you're planning, no problem, and most wedding guests would expect that the rehearsal dinner is less formal. Furthermore, if the guests are familiar with the restaurant you're planning to use, they'll know what to expect. As for controlling drinks, you should be able to arrange for only a limited bar with the restaurant instead of allowing guests access to a full (and more expensive) drink menu. Consider only offering a few types of drinks, and reserving wine or champagne for a special speech or toast rather than having it available throughout the meal. You can also arrange to have alcohol service stopped at a particular time, say 30-60 minutes before the end of the event, which will help control the bar tab as well as be a safer alternative for guests. Best wishes!

-- Contributed by: Melissa Mayntz

We are the parents of the groom. We would like to have the rehearsal dinner in the back room of a local establishment; however, we do not want to have people go overboard on the tab for drinks. How do we manage to control this without offending anyone. Any suggestions. Also, the bride's parents are also doing things more elaborate for everything and we would like to have a less formal rehearsal dinner such as at a pizza/hot sandwich establishment. How do we go about stating that this is what we would like and what we can afford. Thank you for your help.

-- Contributed by: Sandy
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