Mother of the Bride
From LoveToKnow Weddings
The mother of the bride has one of the most important jobs of the whole wedding, for without her, the wedding ceremony can’t begin. That’s right, the mother of the bide is seated last on purpose, for this is the signal for the ceremony to begin.
Mother of the Bride Duties
As mother of the bride, of course, you want to help out. Keep in mind however; your daughter wants your assistance without you taking over the entire event. Be there and offer advice when you’re asked, but know when to stand aside and let the bride make her own decisions, especially if she and the groom are the ones paying for the event.
- Help the bride shop for her wedding dress, flowers, catering hall, wedding cake and other necessities.
- Purchase the bride’s wedding night and honeymoon lingerie. Most mothers choose to give this at the wedding shower.
- If you’re paying for much of the wedding, give your name as contact for many of the vendors. If the bride is handling the preparations on her own, she can give your name as a backup in the case of an emergency.
- Create the guest list for the bride’s side of the family.
- Receive and keep track of wedding invitation RSVPs.
- Attend the shower and rehearsal dinner. Offer to assist with the hosting.
- Take your place in the receiving line and greet wedding guests.
Don’t forget your most important duty as mother of the bride: listen. Be there for your daughter. Weddings are great fun, but planning them can be stressful as well. Let your daughter vent or cry on your shoulder whenever she’s feeling a bit stressed.
What to Wear
Since you start the wedding, at some point, all eyes will be on you. Because of this, you want to look your best. Discuss your attire with the bride, she might have a particular look or color in mind. For instance, if all the bridesmaids are wearing tea length dresses, she’ll probably want you to do the same. You might also consider choosing a color to match the décor.
As a courtesy, check with the mother of the groom to see what she’ll be wearing. The last thing you want is for both of you to show up in the same dress or even something very similar.
Take the bride shopping with you when you shop for your mother of the bride dress, if you can. She’ll help you to choose something suitable yet elegant.
The Wedding Day
On the day of the wedding, the mother of the bride is expected to help the bride prepare for her big day. Perhaps it means getting your hair and nails done together or helping the bride into her dress and adjusting her veil. You’ll also want to soothe her nerves and offer advice.
In most cases, the bride goes to the church with her mother and father. While the bride usually doesn’t appear until the ceremony has begun, the mother of the bride can stay in the vestibule or lobby and greet guests as they arrive, if you’re so inclined. You’re not to be seated however, until all of the guests have appeared. Once it’s time to begin the wedding, the ushers will seat the mother of the groom, followed by the mother of the bride. As soon as you are in your seat, the music, and wedding, will begin.
The Reception
At the wedding reception you’ll be expected to share in a few dances, but for the most part, this is the part when you get to relax and enjoy yourself. The mother of the bride isn’t required to give speeches, but feel free to say a few brief words if you’d like.
At the reception, enjoy the food and the music. Visit with the other guests and do try to have a good time.
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