Flower Girl
From LoveToKnow Weddings
Having a flower girl as part of the wedding party dates back to the Victorian Era. The original intention was to use her as a way to provide entertainment to guests who would oooh and aah as she walked down the aisle. These days the flower girl’s main purpose might not be to entertain, but guests are still delighted when she walks before the bride.
Age
A flower girl is generally between the age of three and eight. Keep in mind however, that the younger she is, the less likely she is to stay focused. Young children are unpredictable, when choosing a three to five year old you may be subject to fidgeting or even a tantrum. While most of the time there is nothing to worry about, you should be prepared for all likelihoods. You may need to rehearse the processional and even the ceremony several times so she knows what’s expected of her.
Flower Girl Duties
The flower girl’s appearance signals the bride’s arrival. She is to walk behind the Maid of Honor, but before the bride. In most cases, she’ll strew flower petals along the aisle for the bride’s service. If there is a ring bearer, she will be expected to walk down the aisle at his side. The flower girl will also appear in wedding photos, and if the bride and groom wish, will be announced by the disc jockey at the reception and take part in the first dance. The flower girl’s attendance at the reception is not mandatory, however.
During the Ceremony
While most of the bridal party is expected to stand at the bride’s side during the ceremony, it’s rather unreasonable to expect a young child to do so, especially if it’s a long ceremony. Designate one of the bridesmaids to keep an eye on the flower girl and hold her hand if needed. If she starts fidgeting or misbehaving, the bridesmaid should bring the flower girl to her parent’s pew, where she should sit for the duration. She’s not required to walk back up the aisle in the recessional.
During the Reception
It’s up to you whether or not you want children attending your reception. It’s perfectly acceptable to have a flower girl attend the ceremony but not the festivities afterwards. Once again, keep in mind the child’s age. There’s a good chance young children will act up during the reception. If you’ll be providing a baby sitting service for guests with young children, the flower girl could play with the other kids when not having her picture taken or being announced by the disc jockey.
Flower Girl Dress and Accessories
In most cases the flower girl will wear a miniature version of the bridesmaids’ dresses. If the dresses are too grown up, sweeter versions are available for youngsters. If no matching version is available, you can consider a less expensive dress in the same color. Many brides would rather the flower girl wear white as a symbol of sweetness and purity. If you’re going this route keep in mind that some guests may not approve of flower girls looking like “mini brides.”
White tights and age appropriate shoes can also be worn. Ballerina flats or Mary Janes died to match the dress are a good choice. Jewelry should be simple and age appropriate as well. Nothing clunky or distracting. If you like, you can place a wreath of flowers, straw hat, or prettybun wrap atop her head. Most flower girls carry a basket for their flower petals, or, if they won’t be scattering petals, a small simple bouquet or kissing ball will do.
Flower Girl Gift
When choosing bridal party gifts, don’t forget something for the flower girl. Some suggestions include:
- Age appropriate jewelry
- Music Box
- Keepsake Box
- Bride Doll
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Comments
Amanda - Ten years old is really too old to be a flower girl; a junior bridesmaid role would really be more appropriate. You don't actually have to have a flower girl if you don't have a young girl who can serve in that role, but I wouldn't recommend putting a young boy in that role either. He would very quickly realize it's a "girl's" position and it could be very awkward.
-- Contributed by: Melissa MayntzChris - It's unusual that only one girl would have been asked when the couple knows they are twins. While it is up to them to make the final decision, I'd suggest you tactfully ask why only one girl was asked to be included, and express your concerns. With the girls that young, having one left out could create problems on the wedding day as the other wants to be in the spotlight too. Best wishes!
-- Contributed by: Melissa MayntzMy fiance and I were discussing young girls in either of our families that could take the roll of being a flower girl, and we only have one option: my youngest niece who (i believe) will be 10 by the time our wedding day rolls around... Is that too old, or can we have a substitue? I have two younger nephews that can fit the younger rolls....
-- Contributed by: AmandaThis page has been accessed 6,913 times. This page was last modified 03:46, 13 September 2008.
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