Wedding Gifts

Wedding gifts continue to be a source of discussion and debate among those attending the nuptials. For instance, many are still on the fence over whether or not it is proper to give cash. Others feel wedding gift registries are tacky because it's impolite to ask for gifts. Still others are unsure of where to give the gifts, are they sent to the bride's house or given on the big day? Whatever your dilemma, if you're attending a wedding, you'll need to give a gift.

The Truth about Wedding Gifts

Let's dispel a few rumors about wedding gifts:

• Your wedding gift should equal the price of the "per head" cost of everyone in your particular party - This couldn't be farther from the truth. Guests are invited because the bride and groom would like for them to share their special day, not because of the gift they will give. They're certainly not expected to pay for their meals! In fact, a wedding gift can be handmade, it can cost $10 or it can cost $1,000. It's the thought that counts.

• You have to choose a gift from the wedding registry – A wedding registry only includes suggestions. Yes, these are gifts the bride and groom would enjoy, but wedding registry participation certainly isn't mandatory. You're welcome to choose wedding gifts from any store you like.

• You shouldn't bring a gift to the wedding – This seems to be a regional rule. While proper etiquette does dictate gifts be sent to the bride's home, it's acceptable in many areas to set up gift tables in a discreet area of the reception hall. Where wedding gifts are given is usually up to the bride and groom.

• The bride and groom really want cash – Most guests choose to give the happy couple money to help them pay for their honeymoon or to help them start their new life together. Whether you choose to give a check or an actual physical gift is entirely up to you. It's actually considered poor etiquette to request only gifts of cash. Wedding guests should never have specific gifts requested of them.

• The bride and groom must receive their gifts by their wedding date – Technically guests have up to a year to give a wedding gift. While this is allowable, it's not very thoughtful to be so tardy.

When choosing a gift for a special couple, choose from the heart. Don't worry about the amount of money you spend or whether or not it's purchased at a specific shop. As longs as your heart is in it, the bride and groom will be touched no matter what you give.